My first man was a dildo or where virginity ends

Feb 21, 2007

Is your virginity precious to you? Or you'd rather break the hymen as soon as possible? In fact, there can be so many reasons for you to lose virginity and ways to fulfill your plans.

While some women take pains to find a back-way and undergo hymen repair surgery to recover the lost cherry, others urge to say long farewell to their virginity.

But as the process is claimed to be "unpleasant and painful" aside from the fact that emotional factor may play its biggest role as well, many girls choose a better way to lose virginity with the help of sex toys.

No need to say that adult industry is vast and adult stores are not a "shameful place" any more. We live in a world where everyone has a right to express his or her sexuality in different ways. And sex toys stores offer us the chance to go beyond the borders of human contact. What a sex toy has to offer you? Of course, you may use it for self stimulation or to experiment with a partner, but you can as well begin your intimate life with a sex toy.

Nowadays Internet is flooded with messages like:

"I am 25 year old and had no sexual relationships. I want to lose my virginity but I am quite scared. All my friends are already non-virgins and I simply think that my boyfriend would be shocked to know that I never had any partners, as if no one noticed me or something. I thought about losing my virginity with a dildo. What would you recommend me?"

That is not a single e-mail written to one of online sex toys stores. Girls from their early teenage to their late twenties are more and more eager to have their first intercourse with a sex toy rather than a man. Why?

In fact the reasons can be different:

1. It's high time to make it


2. It's safe (you won't get STD's and you won't end up with unwanted pregnancy)


3. You won't be hurt emotionally


4. You are more in control of the situation( no one can push you for this act)


5. You are free to choose a place and time

Does this idea now sound more appealing than a "usual way" of loosing cherry? To many first-timers it really is. But then another question arises: Will you mark your virginity by the physical act of breaking hymen with a dildo or you will still remain virgin?
It's all about the meaning you put into the term virginity. For example, you've kissed, you've hugged, you've touched each others hands, you've touched each other's breasts, genitals...did it go too far or not yet? Both of you are enjoying oral sex, masturbating in each other's presence, had some "backdoor play"- do you still consider yourself to be virgin? You eventually purchased a dildo and had penetration. So is it a final word for your virginity? It's up to you to decide.

Starting sexual relationships is an important step and your sexuality may find various ways to manifest itself. You may lose virginity with a finger, dildo, cucumber, banana or any other object and declare yourself a "physical non-virgin". Or you may have your first sexual intercourse with a man you don't love. It's all the matter of one's own individual choice.

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Okay, I'm 13 and I have "Experimented" with myself. I kinda did some snooping at the age of 11 and found my mommys play toys, and used them. I freaked soooooooooo bad when I saw I was bleeding, but it stopped after a few minutes. I feel kinda bad that I did that, and now I regret it a little. but at least I don't have to worry about breaking my hymen when I try sex with a guy. >.>'

but my point is i am only 12 years old..i dont kow what i was thinking.. i asked my mom if u can loose it to a dildo and she said YES and i was about 2 cry because it sounds weird and all loosin it 2 a dildo and i dont even know if i am or not like when u loose it u feel lighter and when ur virgin u know but like i feel half and half..i need help...somebody please give me the facts...PLEASE!!!!

shantee,i got same thing in mind,im a boy,about 2 get married,never had intercourse before in my life.but i think if my wife is already used.will it effect me?physically and mently?

I dont kow if i am a virgin or not..I used a skinny dildo and i asked my mom when can i loose it and she said after i get married because it is an "honor" 2 my family and i asked her after i did thatt so right now i dont even know if i am or not i feel like i am not but ppl said that they are just for pleasure and i am still a virgin.I wish that i never done that so i want to feel better but i just want to know if i am or not and if i am not then it is a disgrace 2 my family...

I am 12 years old and very interested in sex. I want to use a dildo but u dont want to break my hymen. Ive done lots of research and i really want it bad. I want to break my hymen with a man but i want to explore myself. What should i do??

If you have not a man's penis in your vagina you are still a virgin. I have a daughter and I would rather have her use sex toys than men. As stated STD's are forever. Veneral worts are forever and they cause cervical cancer. If I could tell you and impress one thing upon you girls trying out ex it is don't trust your life with anyone-my son died of AID's and it hurts every day.

I'm a hard core lesbian. Use these toys all the while with my "friends". Started using them since I was 14. I think using a toy is any time much better than sex with a guy. We are more in control n know what to do with ourselves to get the maximum pleasure. Most guys don't know anything 'bout how to really pleasure a girl.

This is really interesting to me because I have been interviewing people across the UK for the past year about what their virginity means to them - and about the myriad different ways that we lose it. Check out my blog:
www.virginityproject.typepad.com

i started playin when i was 10 using my finger.that kinda got old after awhile.at 12 i explored my moms room and found her toys tucked away.a small dildo looked good to me so i went to my room and explored myself with it .lubing it up with spiti tryed putting it in..... with alittle thrust it was up to my hymen. so i just gave a good push and i felt it give. blood started going wow what happyness.NO MORE HYMEN.i had a boy from school that was oldercome over while parents were at work we had the best sex. so glad i broke myself a few weeks before.

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